Orderly Worship
Paul says that when they gather, all contributions must aim at building up the church. Tongues are to be few, sequential, and interpreted; prophecies are to be weighed and given in turn; and this is possible because the spirits of prophets are subject to prophets, since God is not a God of disorder but of peace.
W26hat then shall we say, brothers? When you come together, everyone has a psalm or a teaching, a revelation, a tongue, or an interpretation. All of these must be done to build up the church. 27If anyone speaks in a tongue, two, or at most three, should speak in turn, and someone must interpret. 28But if there is no interpreter, he should remain silent in the church and speak only to himself and God. 29Two or three prophets should speak, and the others should weigh carefully what is said. 30And if a revelation comes to someone who is seated, the first speaker should stop. 31For you can all prophesy in turn so that everyone may be instructed and encouraged. 32The spirits of prophets are subject to prophets. 33For God is not a God of disorder, but of peace— as in all the churches of the saints.
Paul then instructs that women are to remain silent in the churches and to ask their questions at home, framing this as part of submission and shared church order. He sharply resists any Corinthian exceptionalism and says that anyone who is truly spiritual will recognize his instructions as the Lord's command, while refusal to do so leads only to exclusion.
34Women are to be silent in the churches. They are not permitted to speak, but must be in submission, as the law says. 35If they wish to inquire about something, they are to ask their own husbands at home; for it is dishonorable for a woman to speak in the church. 36Did the word of God originate with you? Or are you the only ones it has reached? 37If anyone considers himself a prophet or spiritual person, let him acknowledge that what I am writing you is the Lord’s command. 38But if anyone ignores this, he himself will be ignored.
So Paul tells them to desire prophecy and not forbid tongues, but to see that everything is done fittingly and in order.
39So, my brothers, be eager to prophesy, and do not forbid speaking in tongues. 40But everything must be done in a proper and orderly manner.